4 Unexpected Ways You're a Facebook Bully

Tuesday, June 10, 2014 Stef dela Cruz 2 Comments

There are many bullies out there. But did you know that bullying also occurs on Facebook? Here are 4 surprising reasons you’re actually a Facebook bully.

cat on Facebook“I’ll push you around! Just you wait while I log on to Facebook…”

I bet that the only bully you’re familiar with is the bully who pushes kids around in school, the bully who is plain mean and rude. How many times have you heard of the bully who doesn’t know he’s actually a bully? If you haven’t, then read on – because YOU might actually be a bully and you don’t know it yet.

4 Unusual Examples of a Facebook Bully

A bully shows aggressiveness via force or undue pressure to have a certain effect on someone else. A more obvious example of bullying is being physically abusive, such as pushing someone whom you know is smaller or weaker than you.

But there are more discrete, unnoticeable ways that bullies assert their power. For instance, Facebook and other social media have been the platform of many bullies, especially those who feel they’re not bullying (when, in fact, they are).

Below are more concrete examples of “discrete” or “non-obvious” bullying. Find out if you’re guilty of any of them!

Bully #1:
The friend who leaves a rude comment on your Facebook status and says it’s “just a joke”

As you might already know, there are “friends” and there are “frenemies”. Frenemies, especially those who envy or hate you, can’t just curse you directly. Instead, they can leave disparaging remarks on your Facebook wall, then tone it down by following up with a “hahaha”. Think hard: has this happened to you? How many times have your so-called friends left insulting comments on your Facebook wall that really bothered you? If their remarks make you ask yourself if they’re truly your friends, then your “friends” might be bullies without you even noticing it.

Bully #2:
The passive-aggressive Facebook friend who indirectly shows you how much he doesn’t like you

Being passive-aggressive means not doing what’s expected of you in terms of societal norms. For instance, if you leave a “Happy Birthday” comment on your friend’s wall, you kind of expect him to leave a response or like your comment. It’s okay if he doesn’t, but if he responds to everyone else’s greeting BUT skips yours, then he might just be bullying you. Of course, this should be taken with a grain of salt: maybe you were the one who bullied him and he simply wants to avoid you.

Bully #3:
The otherwise decent friend who acts like a troll – but only on your Facebook page

Are you familiar with trolls? They post comments in forums, Facebook groups, or other online social platforms that provoke other people. They also post unrelated comments. For instance, if a thread is dedicated to a specific topic then one person keeps posting unrelated jokes and songs, then he’s acting like a troll – and yes, he’s an online bully.

Bully #4:
The Facebook buddy who leaves lewd remarks and sexually-implicit comments on your photos

This is more commonly done by males as women are easier targets in terms of sexual bullying. For instance, a person who says, “You’re so yummy, I wonder how you taste in person!” after you post a picture on Facebook is in no way trying to ask you out on a date; he’s just being a bully.

Is someone bullying you on Facebook? Share this article!

Bullies on Facebook are usually cowards in real life. They push your buttons while hiding safely behind their computer screens. Anonymity for them is like an elixir of power, without which they can’t find their voice!

There are many other ways that people bully others, especially on Facebook, Twitter, and other social media. If you know of any specific examples, leave a comment and I can update this post to add your example!

Is there someone you know who’s bullying you on Facebook but he probably isn’t aware of it? Share this on Facebook and pray he sees it!

Stef dela CruzAbout the blogger
Stef dela Cruz is a doctor and writer. She received the 2013 Award for Health Media from the Department of Health. She maintains a health column in Health.Care Magazine and contributes to The Manila Bulletin. Add her to your circles.


  1. I don't like online bullies too. All they do is create animosity and hysteria because of their craving for drama in life. :(

  2. Thank you for posting this. Very useful and I'm thinking back on people who has done done that to me :)