Ladies, listen up! How many times have you felt – and known – that you are being short-changed by your partner? Evolution has done its job because at the end of the day, women are born with the capacity to sense that they are getting the short end of the stick. And in terms of how men treat you, here are a few telltale signs that he just doesn’t care that much about you:
- He does not want to be seen with you. Men like being seen as “the guy with all those women.” Every guy loves being seen around women because this does wonders to their male ego. So, if your partner doesn’t mind being seen with other girls but would rather show up alone to a major event where he expects to be recognized than be seen with you, he probably does not care about you – and you’re just some dirty little secret he wants to play with when he’s bored.
- If he does get seen with you, he introduces you as his “client”. Men, in general, love being rumored as ladies’ men, whether or not it’s true. If he brings a gorgeous girl to a party, he will probably introduce her with as much pride as a boy with a shiny new toy. So, if your partner introduces you as his client or his publicist or as something else equally impersonal, he probably doesn’t care about you. Listen up: if he cares about you, he will have no second thoughts about introducing you in a way that won’t make you cringe in disbelief.
- He remembers to log on to Facebook – but forgets to ask you how you’re doing. A study by psychologists revealed that a person’s concern about you is best echoed by short-term impulsive displays of affection rather than long-term recall. In other words, if he forgets to take out the garbage despite the fact that you’ve told him a million times, don’t fret – he still cares; he’s just not that responsible. At the same time, if he sees something in the supermarket which he knows you might like and buys it for you, he does care; it’s the kind of impulsive thoughtfulness that best shows how much he cares. Of course, the opposite is also true: if he remembers to check his Facebook and Twitter but forgets to send you a short “how are you” message when you’ve already told him you’re sick or dying, too bad. It’s a sign that he just doesn’t care that much about you - at least, not as much as he cares about his Facebook wall feed.
It goes without saying, however, that you should take the above signs with a grain of salt. There are many other signs to show that he doesn’t care that much about you. Trust your instincts and always listen to your gut; it’s your mind’s way of telling you what you already know.
If you can relate to any of the above signs that he doesn’t care that much about you, perhaps it’s time to push him out the door and tell him to talk to the hand. And if you like everything that drips with sarcasm (like this blog post), you might want to get a hold of Stanley Chi’s Suplado Tips. It will teach you to show everyone that you couldn’t care less, either. And if you’re a guy, you might want to find out if she’s the one – read this and see if she fits the bill!