The Critical Epiphany

Thursday, June 03, 2010 Stef dela Cruz 0 Comments

Actions and words are like signs and symptoms. Put together and interpreted within context, they can tell you a lot about a person’s “condition.”


Perhaps I have spent a lot of time watching people that I’ve learned a little bit about how to read them. For instance, I’ve picked up quite quickly that relying solely on what one has to say is rather misleading, while counting on body language alone is an utterly misguided way of reading people. But combined, both words and actions reveal a lot about who people really are.

And what’s even more fun than figuring out who a person is? Figuring out what they are thinking or feeling. A person’s identity is fixed; on the other hand, emotions and thoughts are fleeting and constantly changing.

Interestingly, when it comes to thoughts and emotions, women are harder to read than men. Maybe it’s because men are more primitive in the way they communicate. Women, on the other hand, even have their own “language” – for example, when a woman says “I’m okay” when she’s clearly upset, it just might mean she wants to be cajoled and consoled.

But reading people isn’t always easy. Observations about other people are sometimes based heavily on subjective, rather than objective, information. And when your mind is clouded by your own opinions, chances are, you are bound to misread people. stefanie

At the end of the day, I realized that knowing what’s on someone else’s mind all the time is not always fun. More importantly, it’s not fair. Reading people’s thoughts is like hacking into their minds.

Besides, when everything becomes easy to read, there’s not much to look forward to. That’s why sometimes, I do turn my radar off. Where’s the fun in being able to tell all the time if a person is pulling your leg or in fact telling the truth? Sometimes, it’s better to not be in the know.

More importantly, regardless of what I do find out, I never gloat… however, I will continue to take notes. Gradually, but certainly, I will lower my skeptic brow and allow people to unfold and peel their layers in their own time.

Stef dela CruzAbout the blogger
Stef dela Cruz is a doctor and writer. She received the 2013 Award for Health Media from the Department of Health. She maintains a health column in Health.Care Magazine and contributes to The Manila Bulletin. Add her to your circles.